Intervention Planning Resources
Use these checklists as a working plan. Print them, share them with the family members involved, and revisit them the week before you gather.
Intervention preparation checklist
- Written list of specific behaviors and events you have observed, with dates where possible.
- Basic understanding of the substance involved and the risks of withdrawal.
- A decision about whether a professional should facilitate.
- A list of participants, each confirmed and prepared.
- A rehearsal scheduled at least a few days before the conversation.
- A private, neutral location and a time when the person is likely to be sober.
- Transportation arranged for the same day, including a packed bag if admission is possible.
- Treatment options researched: at least two programs with phone numbers and costs.
- Insurance information gathered, with verification underway.
- Your own boundaries written down, one sentence each, that you can actually keep.
- A plan for the two hours after the conversation, whoever is present.
- A support group or therapist identified for each participant.
Questions to ask an interventionist
- What is your training, and how long have you been facilitating interventions?
- How do you handle a person who refuses or becomes agitated?
- What is the total cost, and what happens if the person does not go to treatment?
- Do you have financial relationships with treatment programs?
- How many preparation sessions are included, and who attends them?
- What is your policy on safety planning when there is a history of violence?
- Will you speak with our chosen treatment provider before the meeting?
Family communication guidance
- Speak from your own experience — “I noticed,” “I felt,” “I am worried” — rather than diagnosing.
- Use specific examples instead of character judgments.
- Avoid the words “always,” “never,” and “you made me.”
- Do not negotiate treatment details in the room; bring the option and the next step.
- Agree in advance that no one will argue with another participant in front of the person.
- Let silence sit. Do not fill it with pressure or threats.
Sample intervention statement structure
Opening. “I’m here because I love you and I’m worried about you.”
Observation. Two or three specific incidents, without editorializing: what you saw, when, and what happened next.
Impact. How it has affected you: sleep, health, other children, work, your own mental health.
Ask. A clear, specific request: an assessment, a detox bed, a residential program, an outpatient appointment.
Support. What you will do to help: drive them, help with paperwork, attend family sessions.
Boundary. What you will no longer do, stated once, calmly, and only if you can keep it.
Treatment planning checklist
- Level of care identified based on assessment, not convenience or availability alone.
- Withdrawal risk understood; medical detox arranged where needed.
- Program licensure and accreditation confirmed.
- Costs, length of stay, and payment expectations in writing.
- Insurance benefits verified, including out-of-network costs.
- Mental health screening arranged for co-occurring conditions.
- Continuation plan discussed before admission — what happens at discharge.
- Family involvement expectations clarified with the program.
What to do if someone refuses treatment
Refusal is a real possibility, and it is not failure. Follow through on the boundaries you named. Keep the door open without resuming the patterns that made things worse. Continue your own support. And revisit the conversation later, ideally with professional guidance, because readiness changes.
If refusal is combined with threats of self-harm, severe withdrawal symptoms, or an inability to stay safe, treat it as a medical or psychiatric emergency rather than a family disagreement.
Family support
Find your own support before the meeting
Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, and family support groups give participants somewhere to process the conversation — before and after.
Find family support meetingsCommon questions
- Should we tell extended family and friends?
- Only include people with a direct, current relationship to the person. An intervention is not a public event, and a large group can feel humiliating rather than supportive.
- What if the person leaves the room?
- Let them go. Do not block an exit or escalate. Follow up later, and follow through on your boundaries in the meantime.